Never ending stories-- Bullying is one of them

Some times when I return to listening to Jon Feine,  I think so much of his style of Radio is about keeping the story going,  rather than helping the listeners deal with problems they are having . If you've ever raised a 'heartfelt" with Jon,  you will know that after "spilling your beans' ( his '" five minutes of fame "jibe-maybe  he should only get five minutes himself!)   the agenda moves on . Should you dare ring again" Sorry we have dealt with that issue " 
 774 haven't got a blog and their  facebook page is just too cosy to be comfortable for me ( on some issues at least) . After all, quickfix maybe a dominant culture outside the ABC,  but it shouldn't be the culture inside it . Jon symbolizes the hypocrisy of much media (Convictionless kitchen ) - They offer  a  feast menu , but fail to deliver on the food ( (even a links page would be good for 774 - I've been saying this for years!) .
I rang today because so many listeners rely on the ABC for their window to the world , and when that window is a controlled one ---I just can't believe it . We in media have a term for "beyond PCorrect" - its called NT "no talk "( forbidden talk) Loosen up boys !
Many Parents need desperately to talk about bullying , and pull the issue apart . Its not adequate as Jon did today , to trot out the truth that 'if you ban something it won't work' - you can say,  like more and more polys are thankfully saying "that there are , in your opinion,  good choices and bad choices',  as parents must  and are doing .
The ABC seem  to think that only experts ( including,  of course,  the ever dominant Jon ) know something about these issues,  and this is plain stupid . Parents know lots - are any of you aware of good blogs by parents? One reason I don't take ABC science talk too seriously is that " they see themselves as information central " or worse? information neutral = information overload ? Tantalizingly shallow ?

Proper research always involves differentiation of probable causes and generic factors )( valid scientific briefing).Much even sound science research proves nothing , so why do we listen to the war of mere words from  the quickfixers . Lots of unchecked briefs are often just self centred justification and must be considered unscientific because of lack of rigour in sampling and substance ( like polls - Tantalizingly shallow ?) .
Clearly teenage girls and boys have some quite different and profound responses to the "do what you like"culture that dominates the worldview in the world in which they are venturing into . Let's deal with the facts ( ABCDRUM- here's a question for you --what other choices are parents making to show they disagree with dominant worldviews! Wahid ali  where are U ?

Boys don't get ribbed for how many girls they "conquer," but whether we like it or not,  the girls often feel their choices very deeply .
You see its harder to cope with accusations about what you choose,  than it is to cope with accusations about who you are .  I hate it the way adults woose out and let girls suffer on this level of choice  . Everyone deserves a 2nd chance and kids need , if nothing else during the leaving period to at least know the boundaries of their leaders and mentors . 
A lot of the deep cuts on facebook are not about what you are,  but about what you have done  or "percieved to have done"  - your attitude ; your choices .There is a lot of hypocrisy out there and adults don't seem to be helping kids resist "the culture of whoredom ". Morality is no longer bunk - its central. Lets hear more from the women who talk about the sexualization of girls for example .

All of us have been ribbed for WHAT WE ARE  - fat,  skinny ,funny looking , slow ,That's hard,  but it's not the hardest thing - after all,  its really NOT YOUR problem ( just how you were made)  and most of us find in games especially, that there is a place for everyone . Not a problem
The really big non -talk issue ( clear on Facebook , but not on 774) is its often far more serious when you are RIBBED for your choices  . I mean even looking at a boy can get a girl into trouble,  if she makes her feelings public . Perception can be beat up into reality . "She's hot for him " can be interpreted that she's done something"  more serious " with him ( when she hasn't) Perception and action are explosive material on facebook . what safety net is there for young girls on this matter?? Cummon Jon and 774 and abcdrum. I suggest one possible thing to do ( cause facebook is going to be used ) is to get kids ( esp teenagers ) to find friends who set boundaries , but unlike their parents,  aren't always lecturing them about them.Obviuosly teachers aren't able to do that but kids need someone ( aunts uncles granny and grandad are all big positives for using facebook )

Boys don't get ribbed ( often the opposite ) about the girls they "conquer"  .Who here is going to say girls don't often feel their choices deeply when the evidence is all over facebook!    Even a closer look at perceptions from all parties is necessary before the merrygo round of ABC talk really starts to move people on.  This is not a media game--- its life serious   More here   Join in